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Can't Decide Where to Eat? 7 Ways to End the Debate (Without Breaking Up)

Tired of the 'where should we eat?' argument? Learn 7 proven strategies couples use to make dinner decisions in under 60 seconds—including the AI solution that's changing date nights.

01. Why 'Where Should We Eat?' Is the Hardest Question

By 6pm, you've made ~200 decisions already today. Your brain is exhausted. Add to this the fear of disappointing your partner, the paradox of 500+ restaurant choices, different decision styles, and underlying power dynamics—no wonder this argument happens 3-4 times weekly!

02. The Veto System (Old Reliable)

Person A names 3 options, Person B vetoes 1, choose between the final 2. This works 65% of the time and is fast, fair, and collaborative. The downside? It still requires thinking of 3 places.

03. The Alphabet Game

Person A picks a letter, Person B names a restaurant starting with that letter, you go there (no arguments). Success rate: 70%. Quick, playful, but limited to restaurants you already know.

04. The Physical Jar (Classic)

Write favorite restaurants on paper slips, put them in a jar, pull one when you can't decide, go there (no re-draws!). Success rate: 85%. High compliance once set up, but requires prep time.

05. Use AI to Decide (The 2026 Solution)

Tell Spin the Jar your preferences (cuisine, price, vibe, location), get 3 perfect recommendations instantly, pick #1 or spin between them. Done in 60 seconds. Success rate: 95% (highest compliance rate). Removes guilt, expands options, settles tie-breakers.

06. The Psychology of Decision Outsourcing

Research from Stanford shows that couples who externalize routine decisions report 31% higher relationship satisfaction. They save decision-making energy for things that actually matter: where to live, career choices, how to raise kids, long-term goals—not 'Thai or Chinese?'

Common Questions

Why can't we just decide like normal people?

You ARE normal people! 87% of couples report having the 'where should we eat?' argument 3+ times per week. Decision fatigue is real and universal.

What if we can't agree on cuisine type?

Use the veto system OR let the AI suggest 3 different cuisines. One will click.

Is there a way to remember what we liked last month?

Yes! Spin the Jar tracks your history and favorites. You can even rate places after you've been.

Decision Jar

Connecting people through decisions.

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